Why is the divorce rate so high among Christians?
Why is the divorce rate so high among Christians? One reason could be that married couples are usually split up the second they walk through the church door.
As a divorce recovery counselor of over 15 years, I see this with couples all the time, and it’s exhausting to work through with them. They have been thoroughly convinced that they are doing a “good thing”. I mean, all this is happening “at church”, right? Unfortunately, this practice is misguided at best.
If married individuals repurposed just HALF the time they spend trying to connect with their same-gender “brothers” or “sisters” in well-meaning weekly “men’s ministry” or “women’s ministry” groups, their lives would change exponentially. Spend that time, instead, actively pouring into the ONE PERSON on planet earth with whom you are called to become ONE FLESH.
“But we’ve always done it this way!”
No, keeping your confidence, affections and loyalty away from your spouse is how Satan has always done it. God’s word says differently.
“How will we become stronger women or men?”
By following God’s plan for your marriage, not man’s. Toughing it out together is INTENDED to bring you closer and make you stronger. Gossiping about your home life with peers diverts your attention & wastes that important opportunity. **and yes, it IS gossip – your friends are neither part of the problem, nor part of the solution. Just because you’re doing it with other professing Christians doesn’t mean it’s sanctified behavior.
“There are just some things a woman will never share with a man, and some things a man will never share with a woman.”
There’s your problem. Can your hand all of a sudden decide it’s not going to share blood with your arm? Can your head all of a sudden decide not to communicate with the rest of your body about, let’s say kidney issues? When God said one flesh, this is what He was talking about: One. Flesh.
Bottom Line: If you are confiding all your secrets with anyone other than your spouse, you are sowing your relationship seeds everywhere ELSE. God calls you to sow them at home.
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” ~ Genesis 2:24
This isn’t a game.
Original Article: http://nicoleweyant.untci.org/why-is-divorce-so-high-among-christians/